15. become the person you would ideally fall in love with. let cars merge into your lane when driving. pay double for parking tickets and leave a second one in the machine. stick your tongue out at babies. compliment people on their cute clothes. challenge yourself to not ridicule anyone for a whole day. then two. then a week. walk with a straight posture. look people in the eye. ask people about their story. talk to acquaintances so they become friends.
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there’s that american way of thinking about self-improvement. everything is connotated with an imperative. be this. be that. you should. you must, even.
the result is trying to be everything. the result, ultimately, is always lacking in perfection. always feeling like a failure. here’s one imperative: stick to one thing you would really like to be good at. one thing. whether it’s healthy breakfast or having many friends. whether it’s being good at sex or good at money. stick to one thing. make it a habit. maybe you’ll have time to be perfect at something else later on.
i don’t know. might be just another imperative, if you think about it that way. let’s not be perfect.